Emotional investment. Women are reluctant to allow themselves to become emotionally vulnerable around men of dubious intent or low S and R value. A woman knows that once she gets emotional, it becomes much more difficult to extract herself from the situation.
• Physical investment. Kissing is a bigger investment than walking arm-in-arm. Sex is the biggest investment of all.
• Time. The more time you spend together, the more invested she becomes. It takes an average of four to ten hours before sex.
• Effort. Is she chasing? People don't value that which comes too easily.
The more effort she puts in, the more invested she has become.
• Money. Did you buy her a drink, or did she buy one for your
Many of the tactics in the game are not designed to attract her, but rather to use that attraction as bait in order to get her more invested in her interaction with you. (See chapter 6 for these tactics.
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
Pick Up Artist - Discomfort and confrontation
Discomfort and Confrontation
Women tend to avoid discomfort and confrontation. This may seem rather common-sense, but these points are critical to achieving success in the game:
• Have a positive, open attitude. Don't be judgmental or jealous.
• Don't act as if tilings are a big deal. They aren't.
• Don't complain or be emotionally punishing. If you call her on her shit while talking on the phone, she will just avoid talking to you on the phone. Instead of being the whiny or emotionally abusive boyfriend whenever she pulls a fast one, be the guy who has plenty of options.
• If she flakes on you, don't confront her about it next time you see her. Are you the guy who sat around and got upset? Or are you the guy who called over another girl and then forgot all about it?
Women tend to avoid discomfort and confrontation. This may seem rather common-sense, but these points are critical to achieving success in the game:
• Have a positive, open attitude. Don't be judgmental or jealous.
• Don't act as if tilings are a big deal. They aren't.
• Don't complain or be emotionally punishing. If you call her on her shit while talking on the phone, she will just avoid talking to you on the phone. Instead of being the whiny or emotionally abusive boyfriend whenever she pulls a fast one, be the guy who has plenty of options.
• If she flakes on you, don't confront her about it next time you see her. Are you the guy who sat around and got upset? Or are you the guy who called over another girl and then forgot all about it?
Thursday, August 23, 2007
Pick Up Artist - Another example of female intuition
Another example of female intuition
Women often look for the "real meaning" behind what you say. For example, if you tell a story about your "friend-" she will usually assume that you are actually talking about yourself. This can be useful when the story demonstrates higher value. For example, if you don't want to look like a braggart, you could say, "My friend hooked up with this amazing girl and they had wild sex all weekend..."
On the flipside, if you want her to believe that the story really is about someone else (like if it demonstrates lower value) then use a specific name. For example, "My friend Craig woke up last weekend with a condom in his ass and..."
Shell assume you really are talking about someone else if you give him a name.
Women often look for the "real meaning" behind what you say. For example, if you tell a story about your "friend-" she will usually assume that you are actually talking about yourself. This can be useful when the story demonstrates higher value. For example, if you don't want to look like a braggart, you could say, "My friend hooked up with this amazing girl and they had wild sex all weekend..."
On the flipside, if you want her to believe that the story really is about someone else (like if it demonstrates lower value) then use a specific name. For example, "My friend Craig woke up last weekend with a condom in his ass and..."
Shell assume you really are talking about someone else if you give him a name.
Tuesday, August 21, 2007
Pick Up Artist - LOVE
LOVE (Relationships): This refers mainly to your loving relationships, but
may also extend to friendships, family members, and business relationships. If you want to have loving relationship success, you must study relationships and in particular how to begin one.
You may maintain an area, improve it or neglect it If you rate your success in any area from 1 to 10, a 10 requires you to only maintain it. If the rating is below 10, you will need to devise a way to improve your success in that area. If you neglect an area too long then the quality of your life will decline.
may also extend to friendships, family members, and business relationships. If you want to have loving relationship success, you must study relationships and in particular how to begin one.
You may maintain an area, improve it or neglect it If you rate your success in any area from 1 to 10, a 10 requires you to only maintain it. If the rating is below 10, you will need to devise a way to improve your success in that area. If you neglect an area too long then the quality of your life will decline.
Friday, August 17, 2007
Pick Up Artist - A woman’s indicators of interest
A woman’s indicators of interest, or IOIs, notify when to go from the attract stage to the comfort stage, but you must not do so until she has legitimately earned your IOIs as well! Getting IOIs from a woman is simply not enough reason to begin returning them. If you are too easy, she will mark you as another notch in her belt and move on in search of more challenging conquests.
Some IOI Examples:
• She touches you. When you say, "Hands off the merchandise", she touches you again.
• When you grab her hands and hold them, she holds back.
• She laughs at all your humorous remarks, and the ones that aren’t funny.
• When you ask her to bite your neck, she does.
• She asks you for your name.
Monday, August 13, 2007
Pick Up Artist - Women select for survival and replication value
Women select for survival and replication value
So what are some characteristics that convey S and R value?
• Looks and height. All other factors being the same, women will generally be more attracted to taller or better-looking men. However, if you are short or ugly, that is absolutely no excuse to feel sorry for yourself. There are plenty of successful venusian arists who aren't very tall or classically attractive. Looks and height are real factors, and should be taken into account — but they aren't dealbreakers.
• Being healthy and in shape. Although it's possible to eat wrong, avoid the gym, and still pick up girls, men who stay fit are simply more attractive to women. This really has a big effect on results; people who work out not only look better, but they also give off a better energy in social interactions.
So what are some characteristics that convey S and R value?
• Looks and height. All other factors being the same, women will generally be more attracted to taller or better-looking men. However, if you are short or ugly, that is absolutely no excuse to feel sorry for yourself. There are plenty of successful venusian arists who aren't very tall or classically attractive. Looks and height are real factors, and should be taken into account — but they aren't dealbreakers.
• Being healthy and in shape. Although it's possible to eat wrong, avoid the gym, and still pick up girls, men who stay fit are simply more attractive to women. This really has a big effect on results; people who work out not only look better, but they also give off a better energy in social interactions.
Wednesday, August 8, 2007
Pick Up Artist - Social Awareness
Social Awareness
The various aspects of social networking are of great interest to people and especially women, including status, reputation, competition, and alignments and pair bonds.
Discretion is a virtue
When she says, "not here," you say, "I understand."
A woman's reputation directly influences her social status. This is why women are easier to get into bed when they are on vacation — they are more likely to indulge in an adventure for which they trust there are no social consequences. This is also why women are appreciative of men who understand and practice discretion.
A venusian artist will never brag about his sexual conquests. If you do, not only will it eventually get back to her, but any other woman who hears it will also be on notice that sexual relations with you carry social consequences. So, for example, when you obtain a phone number from a woman, don't walk straight over to your friends and be seen high-fiving them enthusiastically.
Anti-Slut Defense
The word 'Slut' is a weapon that women use against other women
Women have a powerful interruption mechanism known as anti-slut defense,
or ASD. Not only does she prefer to avoid having others perceive her as a slut, which would pose dire consequences to her social status, but also she wants to avoid the discomfort of feeling like a slut. Thus she has the ASD interrupt mechanism to help her avoid this fate.
ASD is what makes a girl blurt out 'I have a boyfriend' (whether she actually does or not) — because you escalated faster than she was comfortable with.
Time in the field will eventually improve your calibration to the point where you can escalate without activating her ASD. Chapter 6 describes how to escalate smoothly through the use of false disqualifiers.
The various aspects of social networking are of great interest to people and especially women, including status, reputation, competition, and alignments and pair bonds.
Discretion is a virtue
When she says, "not here," you say, "I understand."
A woman's reputation directly influences her social status. This is why women are easier to get into bed when they are on vacation — they are more likely to indulge in an adventure for which they trust there are no social consequences. This is also why women are appreciative of men who understand and practice discretion.
A venusian artist will never brag about his sexual conquests. If you do, not only will it eventually get back to her, but any other woman who hears it will also be on notice that sexual relations with you carry social consequences. So, for example, when you obtain a phone number from a woman, don't walk straight over to your friends and be seen high-fiving them enthusiastically.
Anti-Slut Defense
The word 'Slut' is a weapon that women use against other women
Women have a powerful interruption mechanism known as anti-slut defense,
or ASD. Not only does she prefer to avoid having others perceive her as a slut, which would pose dire consequences to her social status, but also she wants to avoid the discomfort of feeling like a slut. Thus she has the ASD interrupt mechanism to help her avoid this fate.
ASD is what makes a girl blurt out 'I have a boyfriend' (whether she actually does or not) — because you escalated faster than she was comfortable with.
Time in the field will eventually improve your calibration to the point where you can escalate without activating her ASD. Chapter 6 describes how to escalate smoothly through the use of false disqualifiers.
Wednesday, August 1, 2007
Pick Up Artist - Mystery Method
Stage 3 of the Mystery Method model is qualification. After you have opened the group and created attraction you need the woman you are interested in to work to obtain your interest.
Skipping this step does not work and results in a lot of failures that confuse men today.If you've ever been in a situation where you've said quot she was so into me and then allof a sudden - nothing quot it's likely because you failed to qualify. You didn't present enough of a challenge or give her a believable reason - other than her looks - why you are interested in her. Don't fall into this trap a How to disarm a beautiful woman's sexual power with Active Disinterest b Hoop Theory Controlling the Frame of the interaction c Using the Bait/Hook/Reel/Release model d The
right way to convey interest in her - and the right time e How to make your target feel that she has won you over f Compliments How to give a woman IOIs she will appreciate g How to approach mixed-sets groups with women and men 4 Rapport Comfort amp Trust and Intimacy top
This is where the game is won or lost with women of exceptional quality. Don't skip the three stages of comfort or you'll be perceived as a quot player quot .a Establishing conversational rapport to create Comfort and Trust b Demonstrating
vulnerability through quot accidentally revealed quot sensitivity c Exchanging
commonalities - various effective routines d How to establish an emotional connection e The Punishment/Reward tactic and the power of Freeze-Outs f Transitioning from Comfort and Trust to Intimacy g Mystery's kiss tactic How to make a woman want to be kissed by you h How to test if a woman is ready to be kissed i How to begin a make-out with her - And when to push her away 5 Routines top
Have you ever been talking with a woman in whom you are interested and quot run out of things to say quot Or said the wrong thing We'll fix that problem once and for all on Day 2 of the seminar. We give you enough material to last over 10 hours of conversation - more than enough to begin a sexual relationship in fact as we explain in the seminar if you take significantly longer than 10 hours to get there you are very likely to be put in let's-just-be-friends zone . Below is an example of the types of routines and material we teach.
a The Photo Routine Convey an hours worth of talk in one minute b The Digital Photo
Routine How to make out with a girl in under a minute c The Snatch Routine A speed and dexterity demonstration routine - great for making her guy friends look up to you d The Spell of Attraction routine e The Anything Game f The Choose Gino gambit g The Peg System g The Question Game g Other field-tested routines. Sometimes different routines get substituted for the ones above depending on students' skills and interests C. Day 3 1pm - 8 30pm top 1 Image amp Identity
The Mystery Method is designed for the most attractive and exceptional women. Our
experience is that you cannot get - or if you can get you cannot hold - such a woman
unless you have a coherent convincing identity that is on one hand interesting and
exciting to your ideal woman and on the other hand congruent with you really are. Women
can smell incongruence a mile away so part of image-building is reality - you may need to
change your lifestyle to attract the woman you want. Until then we teach you to fake it
'til you make it and we teach you - when you do make it - how to convey it.
a Building a powerful congruent identity - and conveying it effectively b Your Image
personalized fashion consultation c Creating a Grounding Routine personalized to your
identity d Peacock Theory How to demonstrate confidence through clothing 2 Seduction top
Seduction is where you absolutely do not want to fail after you've put in a few hours to
pass through the three phases of attraction and the three phases of comfort. If you lose
here you have to start again with someone else. Learn to approach this step with
confidence and a mastery of proven techniques. Has an interaction or date with a woman
ever been totally quot on quot until you get to the point where it would escalate - but
doesn't Resolve now to banish that problem forever. Day 3 of the seminar will be the first
day of your new skill.
a How to isolate from quot comfort location quot to quot seduction quot location b
Re-establishing comfort in the seduction location c Overcoming Last Minute Resistance
Various effective tactics d First-time sex methods to ensure a second time 3 Guest
Speakers top
One of our consistently most popular modules a top Mystery Method instructor will speak on
an area of expertise. Previous topics have included
a Fashion identity and how to have that quot it factor quot that makes women addicted to
you Style b quot Cold readings quot and quot warm readings quot to make a woman need to
see you again Savoy c Wingmanship - how to work in pairs and groups Lovedrop d Fashion and
style - not just what clothes to own but how to know what to wear Sinn e Integrating the
Venusian arts into your lifestyle - and building a lifestyle that supports your
relationship goals DJ f Threesomes foursomes and relationship management Savoy g Frame
control and hoop theory Lovedrop 4 Questions amp Answers top
A free-form discussion that relates to specific issues or concerns of individual students.
II. The Workshop top
A Mystery Method workshop is utterly unique. Mystery and his top instructors were the
first to offer live in-field instruction to select students 5 years ago. Since then he's
taught hundreds of men many of whom have gone on to become top venusian artists. The
workshop is comprised of two basic elements demonstration and practice.
Demonstration is crucial. If you don't know what quot good quot looks like then you won't
know how to model it. Everything from body language to sequencing to tonality to social
intuition can be broken down copied and integrated in your own style. You will see us
approach and meet beautiful women and demonstrate techniques for your benefit. You will
have the opportunity to watch or even be in the same social group and to ask specific
questions about each interaction afterward.
Practice is the flip slide of the coin. Trained and experienced Mystery Method instructors
will observe your interactions over the course of a night and give you solid practical and
usable feedback. We don't sugar-coat our advice - we don't have time to do that and to
teach you everything you need to know. Over three nights we will go from observing your
quot natural quot or pre-existing game to coaching you as you integrate different elements
of Mystery Method into your style and personality. By the end of the program you should
know exactly where you are succeeding and failing and what you need to do for the next few
weeks. And you won't be doing alone - you'll have joined the Mystery Method community and
will have access - through the Mystery Lounge - to talented instructors and former
students. Share your experiences help others and seek advice. We're all in this together.
http://hubpages.com/hub/Mystery_Method_-_Indicator_of_Interest
Skipping this step does not work and results in a lot of failures that confuse men today.If you've ever been in a situation where you've said quot she was so into me and then allof a sudden - nothing quot it's likely because you failed to qualify. You didn't present enough of a challenge or give her a believable reason - other than her looks - why you are interested in her. Don't fall into this trap a How to disarm a beautiful woman's sexual power with Active Disinterest b Hoop Theory Controlling the Frame of the interaction c Using the Bait/Hook/Reel/Release model d The
right way to convey interest in her - and the right time e How to make your target feel that she has won you over f Compliments How to give a woman IOIs she will appreciate g How to approach mixed-sets groups with women and men 4 Rapport Comfort amp Trust and Intimacy top
This is where the game is won or lost with women of exceptional quality. Don't skip the three stages of comfort or you'll be perceived as a quot player quot .a Establishing conversational rapport to create Comfort and Trust b Demonstrating
vulnerability through quot accidentally revealed quot sensitivity c Exchanging
commonalities - various effective routines d How to establish an emotional connection e The Punishment/Reward tactic and the power of Freeze-Outs f Transitioning from Comfort and Trust to Intimacy g Mystery's kiss tactic How to make a woman want to be kissed by you h How to test if a woman is ready to be kissed i How to begin a make-out with her - And when to push her away 5 Routines top
Have you ever been talking with a woman in whom you are interested and quot run out of things to say quot Or said the wrong thing We'll fix that problem once and for all on Day 2 of the seminar. We give you enough material to last over 10 hours of conversation - more than enough to begin a sexual relationship in fact as we explain in the seminar if you take significantly longer than 10 hours to get there you are very likely to be put in let's-just-be-friends zone . Below is an example of the types of routines and material we teach.
a The Photo Routine Convey an hours worth of talk in one minute b The Digital Photo
Routine How to make out with a girl in under a minute c The Snatch Routine A speed and dexterity demonstration routine - great for making her guy friends look up to you d The Spell of Attraction routine e The Anything Game f The Choose Gino gambit g The Peg System g The Question Game g Other field-tested routines. Sometimes different routines get substituted for the ones above depending on students' skills and interests C. Day 3 1pm - 8 30pm top 1 Image amp Identity
The Mystery Method is designed for the most attractive and exceptional women. Our
experience is that you cannot get - or if you can get you cannot hold - such a woman
unless you have a coherent convincing identity that is on one hand interesting and
exciting to your ideal woman and on the other hand congruent with you really are. Women
can smell incongruence a mile away so part of image-building is reality - you may need to
change your lifestyle to attract the woman you want. Until then we teach you to fake it
'til you make it and we teach you - when you do make it - how to convey it.
a Building a powerful congruent identity - and conveying it effectively b Your Image
personalized fashion consultation c Creating a Grounding Routine personalized to your
identity d Peacock Theory How to demonstrate confidence through clothing 2 Seduction top
Seduction is where you absolutely do not want to fail after you've put in a few hours to
pass through the three phases of attraction and the three phases of comfort. If you lose
here you have to start again with someone else. Learn to approach this step with
confidence and a mastery of proven techniques. Has an interaction or date with a woman
ever been totally quot on quot until you get to the point where it would escalate - but
doesn't Resolve now to banish that problem forever. Day 3 of the seminar will be the first
day of your new skill.
a How to isolate from quot comfort location quot to quot seduction quot location b
Re-establishing comfort in the seduction location c Overcoming Last Minute Resistance
Various effective tactics d First-time sex methods to ensure a second time 3 Guest
Speakers top
One of our consistently most popular modules a top Mystery Method instructor will speak on
an area of expertise. Previous topics have included
a Fashion identity and how to have that quot it factor quot that makes women addicted to
you Style b quot Cold readings quot and quot warm readings quot to make a woman need to
see you again Savoy c Wingmanship - how to work in pairs and groups Lovedrop d Fashion and
style - not just what clothes to own but how to know what to wear Sinn e Integrating the
Venusian arts into your lifestyle - and building a lifestyle that supports your
relationship goals DJ f Threesomes foursomes and relationship management Savoy g Frame
control and hoop theory Lovedrop 4 Questions amp Answers top
A free-form discussion that relates to specific issues or concerns of individual students.
II. The Workshop top
A Mystery Method workshop is utterly unique. Mystery and his top instructors were the
first to offer live in-field instruction to select students 5 years ago. Since then he's
taught hundreds of men many of whom have gone on to become top venusian artists. The
workshop is comprised of two basic elements demonstration and practice.
Demonstration is crucial. If you don't know what quot good quot looks like then you won't
know how to model it. Everything from body language to sequencing to tonality to social
intuition can be broken down copied and integrated in your own style. You will see us
approach and meet beautiful women and demonstrate techniques for your benefit. You will
have the opportunity to watch or even be in the same social group and to ask specific
questions about each interaction afterward.
Practice is the flip slide of the coin. Trained and experienced Mystery Method instructors
will observe your interactions over the course of a night and give you solid practical and
usable feedback. We don't sugar-coat our advice - we don't have time to do that and to
teach you everything you need to know. Over three nights we will go from observing your
quot natural quot or pre-existing game to coaching you as you integrate different elements
of Mystery Method into your style and personality. By the end of the program you should
know exactly where you are succeeding and failing and what you need to do for the next few
weeks. And you won't be doing alone - you'll have joined the Mystery Method community and
will have access - through the Mystery Lounge - to talented instructors and former
students. Share your experiences help others and seek advice. We're all in this together.
http://hubpages.com/hub/Mystery_Method_-_Indicator_of_Interest
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