Pick Up Artist - The Hotseat Game

The Hotseat Game

"What's your favorite color?" "What did you think of high school?" "What did you eat for dinner last night?"

And so on. Make sure she gives you an answer and if not then say, "Yes, but that's not an answer to my question." That'll show her gently that you are in charge. Now this isn't all of it but what you're doing here is showing a lot of interest. After all you are essentially giving her permission to talk about herself. They get over any self-consciousness pretty quickly by doing this, too. Plus, it gets them to open up and if they hit on something interesting then they'll maybe elaborate for you.
But as I said there is more to it After they relax after the first few questions, you start throwing in some more personal ones such as:

"Have you ever been to the hospital emergency room?"
"How old where you when you first got drunk?"
"Did you and your siblings keep secrets'?"
"Ever bad a very rough breakup?"
"What's your favorite food / vacation / place to visit" (use your imagination)